Mother Teresa would say, “let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love”
Back in the early 1980’s R Buckminster Fuller, during the last year of his life, who was an engineer, an architect, theorist, author, designer, inventor, poet and visionary was asked: “how he kept himself going in times of great adversity?”. And most of us may have expected a person such as Fuller to respond with a rather complex answer based on his 39 honorary degrees and having authored at least 25 books.
Instead, his answer was quite simple and eloquent. He answered the question by saying simply “really one thing……LOVE.”
Then Fuller continued with an explanation. He said Radiation is inherently disintegrative; it comes apart. Gravity is inherently integrative; it pulls together. And to me, he said , there is a good possibility that love is what I call “Metaphysical Gravity”. Love holds everything together.
How does it feel when a complete stranger smiles at you? What about when a friend smiles at you? What about a member of your family? Or when a lover smiles at you? Each should give a greater feeling of well-being, and of love and being loved. Even when you think that a shared smile from someone you just met is not really love, it can be the start of something greater. It could be the very thing that either of you needed to make or turn around your day!
The lack of day to day personal interaction has reduced most of us to being less social or moved us to being electronically social. How bad can that be you say? Of course some of us are less affected but as a society where are we headed? With the Festival du Voyageur in full swing this week, I think of how less than 200 years ago fur traders would spend days and even weeks preparing or recovering from a long trek and having so many stories and tales to share in the company of fellow beings. We are naturally social and have the inner need to help and please each other.
From this I can only surmise that a smile is worth much more to us today than in the past.
So remember to smile every day, to those you meet, to those you know, and especially to yourself. Smile for the good you will instill in others. Smile for the dignity you will uncover.
If someone doesn’t have a smile give them yours :)