Every year at this time Mother’s day comes along and gets me thinking about the times when my Mom was still with us. My family and I have many wonderful memories of her continued love and patience and respect for everyone. Through our teenage years Mom raised 3 of us on her own and at times had to resort to what she called “tough love”.
Like most young adults we disagreed with a lot of the rules and responsibilities that were imposed on us. Even though we all grew through that and turned out ok, those years were hard on her. Thinking back there was probably not too many times other than Mother’s Day when we gave her thanks and showed our love.
I recently read an article that was written by Sara Debbie Gutfreund and would like to share her thoughts with you.
There is no ‘typical” mothering personality. We’re all as different as each of our children are. But most mothers do want to hear the following sentences from their children:
- Thank you. For being my mother. For buying my favorite snack. For cutting the crust off of my grilled cheese sandwich. For helping me with my homework. For letting me make brownies in the kitchen right after it was cleaned. For driving me to ballet. For smiling when you’re tired. For reading to me. And singing to me. And praying for me. Sometimes mothers think that no one notices all of their efforts. A thank you for the little things is something they all love to hear.
- I’m happy. I’m happy in school. I have great friends. I love our home. I have just what I need. My new job is working out. I like my life. I like myself. The well-known saying is true: Parents are only as happy as their least happy child. This doesn’t mean that mothers don’t want to hear their children’s complaints and troubles. But make sure to frequently share the good news too. When her child is happy, a mother’s heart soars.
- I know you love me. Even when you don’t know how to say it. Even when you aren’t sure how to show it. Even when you are distracted. Or tired. Or busy. Or frustrated. I know you care. Even when you can’t give me exactly what I need, I know you want to. Mothers don’t always know how to tell their children what gifts they are in their lives, but they want to hear that their children know it anyway.
- I need you. When I do something great, it’s your applause I want to hear. When I make a mistake, it’s your reassurance I search for. I need you to show me where I came from and to believe in where I am going. I need you to understand me when no one else can. To love me even when I’m not lovable. To give to me even when I cannot give back. To see me the way only a mother can. After spending years tending to children’s myriad needs, mothers want to hear that they still play a special, crucial role in their lives.
- I admire you. I admire how you helped that woman on the street. How you set such a beautiful table. How you spoke at the conference. How you juggle all of your roles. I admire your strength. I admire your courage. I want to have your warmth. Your perseverance. Your grace. Most of us know that children crave their mothers’ approval, but few of us realize that mothers want their children’s admiration. They want to know that their children see their strengths and are proud of their accomplishments. There is nothing sweeter to a mother’s ear than: I want to be just like you.
I have also posted this link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB3xM93rXbY to a short video about Mothers that I am sure you will enjoy.
What do you do to show your Mom you love her and appreciate all she does for you?